The Center of Pain
| Whether it is a dental appointment or a visit from a difficult relative, your best bet is to deal directly. Anything that is inevitable and unavoidable is best dealt with directly. This also applies to emotional pain, assuming it is not pathological. | |
There have been so many difficult periods in my life but nothing has made them worse that trying to avoid them. There is spiritual pain as well. May as well deal direct. You will be through it much more quickly. I have a secret to staying on an even keel with my friends and coworkers. If there is something that bothers me I go directly to the person. "We must talk," I would say. I learned a long time ago that I really let things bother me if I don't get the issues settled. As a child my family had a rule, "never let the sun set on your anger." When I was a child, if there were a fight, then we would be stopped by Mom or Dad and then each person would sulk off to a bedroom. Before the evening was over we all had to come back together and talk. I mean talk not yell. It irritated the heck out of me sometimes but well, it worked. We would talk it over and then we had to make amends for what ever had happened. You might try it. I still follow that policy and I don't have ulcers to this day. The tune is Memories from Cats |